Crucial Conversations You Need to Have Before Retirement

Being appropriately prepared for retirement involves far more than simply stashing away money in a 401(k), annuity, or some other savings instrument and walking off into the sunset.

When laying the foundation for one’s golden years, they should also discuss their retirement with a number of key people in their life – such as a spouse or domestic partner, children, employer, and maybe even employees if they’re a small business owner.

Almost all of these people will either be impacted by your retirement or will personally have an impact upon it, making such conversations incredibly important.

“Retiring is a major milestone in a person’s life, and it creates a ripple effect that impacts everyone close to the retiree,” says Marc Diana, CEO of MoneyTips. “Making sure your network is prepared for your retirement is vital to ensuring as smooth a transition as possible.”

Here are some of the key people to engage in discussion, both when you’re planning a retirement strategy and as your departure from the workforce gets closer to being a reality.

Your Spouse or Partner

It is often assumed by couples that they have a shared vision for retirement, or that the vision (even when it is shared) is realistic, says Delynn Dolan Alexander, a financial advisor with Northwestern Mutual.

To check whether you’re actually on the same page about your future plans, discuss what it is that you would like to do once you are no longer working, and whether there’s an expense associated with fulfilling those plans. If there is, how are you planning to pay for it?

Determining where it is you want to live, both the location the type of residence, is also important ground to cover, as is deciding whether you want to continue working in any capacity during retirement, and what your financial priorities will be.

“In other words, are you spending all of your savings, or leaving a legacy for the kids or charity?” explained Dolan Alexander.

Coming to an agreement regarding long-term housing plans is particularly important, stresses Jennifer Beeston, vice-president of mortgage lending at Guaranteed Rate Mortgage. Next to medical care costs, housing is the most expensive and couples vary wildly on what they envision for their housing upon retirement.

“Some people want to stay in their current home while others want to downsize or move to be closer to their children,” said Beeston. “You want to have a game plan regarding housing before you retire as each scenario requires a different set of monthly costs to consider.”

Your Children

Like a spouse, your kids will also likely be impacted by the changing finances associated with your departure from the workforce.

Have a frank discussion with children about your plans, especially if your retirement fund is not as established as you would like it to be, suggests Mark Charnet, founder and CEO of New Jersey-based American Prosperity Group.

In that conversation you may find yourself pointing out to your children that you will now be on a fixed or reduced income and that although you’d like to be as generous as you may have been in the past, it will no longer be possible. Charnet even suggests telling your children that they should no longer ask you for money.

Another important topic to cover with children prior to retirement is your housing plans.

“Many people are surprised at the vehemence with which children are attached to an old childhood home, or conversely many retirees hold on to homes even though children have set up independent lives and households elsewhere,” says Diana.

Familiarizing your children with your medical directives and providing them with the contact information for your financial advisor, estate planning attorney and CPA, is also advised.

This process can be simplified by establishing an online vault for all of your important documents and giving your children access, says Brian Saranovitz, co-founder of Your Retirement Advisor.

“While not everyone will be comfortable sharing their financial details with children, it’s good to give them some insight into your financial preparations for retirement and any financial directives in your will,” adds Saranovitz. “Sharing your plan will not only help them upon your death, but also during your retirement if you need assistance. It can also teach them some valuable lessons about preparing well for retirement.”

Your Employer

There’s no getting around it – employers have a profound impact upon retirement. During working years, an employer plays a key role in the growth of your nest egg. And as retirement nears, it’s time to find out if there are any company policies that may impact pensions or other retirement income.

“It’s important to seek help from your employer on transitioning out of the workplace and making sure you understand your options with your company 401(k) or pensions, profit sharing, and healthcare options,” said Saranovitz. “If your employer doesn’t offer these services, a financial or retirement planner can help you, especially with the options for rolling over your 401(k).”

Additionally, it’s a good idea to give your employer ample notice of your planned departure date. “A rule of thumb is that for however many years of experience an employee has, that’s how many months it takes to replace him or her, so the more warning you can give your employer the smoother the transition will go,” suggests Diana.

Financial Planner or Advisor

Retirement can seem like a dark cloud hanging over many people’s heads. Not because we don’t want to retire, but rather because of the money questions surrounding that all-important distant horizon.

Fears about retirement preparations need to be faced head on, and a financial planner can help, says Dawn-Marie Joseph, founder of Michigan-based Estate Planning & Preservation.

“Most people dream about not going to work every day and having freedom from their alarm clock. But when you think of retirement and the amount of money you have or have not saved, it can be overwhelming,” says Joseph. “There’s no time like the present to think about and act on the savings you will need for retirement.”

Begin by creating a draft retirement budget for yourself and then meet with a financial planner to help map out a solid game plan that includes helping your money last for as long as you think you will need it. Bring your spouse or partner to that meeting with your financial planner, and work as a team to put together a realistic, long-term financial strategy.

“The last thing you want to do is outlive your savings,” says Joseph. “Retirement savings can be accomplished. It is all about planning to get it done.”

To find out if you’re having the right conversations to plan for retirement, or how to have those conversations please email us at lynnt@herretirement.com or call 508.798.5115.

Thinking of Relocating During Retirement?

They’re known as snowbirds.  During the winter months, thousands of them descend from the north and enjoy the warmer climate of the southern states.  You’ll find them throughout Arizona and Florida, enjoying the warm weather and basking in the sun.  Unlike other migratory creatures, they do not do this yearly, but rather towards the end of their life.

Snowbirds, otherwise known as the retired population of American citizens, sometimes dream and excitedly talk about their retirement relocation plans.  After all, what is not to love about warm weather, away from snow and ice, clearing the driveway and cars and bundling up in freezing temperatures?  But before moving, here are a few things to consider:

  • Have you spent time here before? Living somewhere verse seeing that life on television or print can be drastically different.  It is important to note what life is really like there.  Have you vacationed here often? Have you been here only a few times?  The more you are familiar with the area, the better you’ll be able to gauge if this is really a place where you want to relocate.
  • What is the difference between vacationing and living? Vacationing somewhere and living there can be drastically different. When on vacation, we tend to eat at restaurants more and see tourist attractions.  But once you live somewhere, is this going to be too much (as far as eating at a restaurant) and enough (eventually, you will have seen all the tourist attractions in the area).  Can you live here as a resident and not just a visitor?
  • How much does a plane or train ticket cost to come “home” for the holidays? If your children still live nearby, how involved are you in their daily life?  Do you have regular meals together?  Do you work as a grandparent daycare for your grandchildren?  Being used to being involved in someone’s life every day to not seeing them but a few times a year can be a drastic change and tough for some snowbirds to handle.  The solution then to consider is how much does it cost to fly between the two destinations?  Make sure to also consider the influx of price during the busy seasons, holidays and summer travel.
  • How much will it cost to live there? This is a practical consideration to research.  Just as when you considered where to live to start your family, what are the property taxes for the area?  What about the average mortgage?
  • What amenities are there for the retired population? Is there a doctor’s office nearby?  What about a pharmacy?  As health needs increase in retirement, it is important to make sure there are necessary amenities, as well as leisure amenities.  Do you enjoy swimming?  Is there a swimming pool nearby?  Do you like hiking?  Are there reasonable hiking trails in the area?  All of these will help to make sure that you don’t regret your move and yearn to move back “home”.
  • Do you know people in the area, to help with household chores? As we become more comfortable and further into our retirement, it is important to note that there will be certain household chores that you will not want to or cannot do.  Do you have friends in the area who will come and mow the lawn?  Or are there affordable businesses who will take care of such chores?  What about fixing household repairs?

Relocating is meant to be an adventure, but making sure that the adventure is fulfilled and worthwhile is the realistic portion of living the dream and may guard against any regret you may have about leaving “home” in the rearview mirror.